And male grooming.

But first--

Where I've Been, and Where I'm At...

So, excluding my movie review there, I've been away for roughly six months. That's how long I had been in my last relationship. I...didn't feel it fair to continue the blog, or to write about my current bf--it would have felt dishonest and sensationalized, so I stayed away. Since I'm writing again, I suppose it isn't hard to figure out we're no longer together.

It was strange, to be sure. He painted a very pretty picture, and I bought it. I thought we'd go the whole nine yards, but it wasn't meant to be. I think (eventually) he had problems with monogamy, suffered from depression, what I believe could have been being bipolar, and came up with superficial reasons to keep me at a distance (i.e., he thought I needed to lose weight, and he thought I needed to lose it now, in spite of the fact that I was the same size when we first met).

We broke up in October, roughly, then resumed..."something" in November. A strange, un-relationship thing. We spent the holidays together, but after New Years, it appears to have been the end. At any rate, I'm not sad about it (anymore), and I've rejoined the dating pool. It seems never ending at this point, but...

So, I like to date older, and there are a few things I've noticed about older men that just....puzzle me just a bit. My ex was ten years older, and the gentleman I've gone out with lately is sixteen years older. It seems that older men don't particularly give a crap about trimming/plucking/just get rid of their ear hair. And I'm not talking about fine, golden hairs...but noticeable, old man hairs. I used to pluck my exes because frankly, it's not something I'd care to look at. That being said, there was one guy I dated who was roughly thirty, and he had the most awful, long gray things sprouting from his ears. It was such an eye sore that I didn't know what to do. Do you mention it? Say something? I told my ex, because we were actually in a relationship. We could talk about things. But if one is on a casual date, and let's just say you were casually dating, do you mention it?

And what about skin care and pedicures? Honestly, rusty toes creep me out, and drying, dead skin isn't terribly sexy either. I don't mean full out metro sexual, but what's so wrong about maintenance and looking one's best? I've also noticed that about older gentlemen I've seen as of late--they may [occasionally] let the ear hair go rampant, but they'll have neatly trimmed and buffed nails. That's not a bad thing, of course--frankly I love it. I have a thing about hands, and am mos def pro-hand maintenance.

Skin...since I am more likely to date older, I'd have to say that this is an important thing as well. Moisturizer, sun screen, vitamin C serums and microderms...It's a given in our society that women have to look good. I think it's good that men are not only taking notice, but notes. Or at least some of the men I've come across, anyway.

So, dear readers...what say you?